Glowing scars

“Please ask questions. Most likely if you have a question, then someone else does too.”

I’ve heard this plenty of times in classrooms and seminars. And it’s never helped ease my fears and raise my hands. I don’t feel any more comfortable speaking my mind, especially in front of a group of people. The fear of asking a stupid question that makes everyone laugh and think “what a retard” still persists.

Great artists know that to touch the hearts of your audience, you must become a mirror for the rage and pain, triumphs and glory that you experience deep within. These strong emotions are broiling in the stomachs of every person, yet on the outside they have to act (literally) like nothing is wrong.

That help-wishful phrase about others having the same questions might not be helpful, but otherwise it’s a very powerful statement. It means that despite what you are feeling, a lot of other people feel the same way you do. And the deeper you go into yourself and pull all those disgusting bits out of you, the more people feel connected to you.

Anyone can become a mirror for someone else, a powerful mirror that changes and moves people. A mirror that shines brightly the flaws in character that frees others from the shame of their own scars. The people who have shone the brightest in history are those who have somehow embraced their flaws, learned from them, then masterfully transformed those flaws into their greatest triumphs. And then these people dedicate their lives to bringing the same transformation to others in their lives.

So if you have a question, a yearning question deep inside you that you haven’t asked anyone because you’re afraid, afraid that no one else will understand, no one else has asked. Then don’t worry about asking it to others in a classroom or a seminar. Ask it of yourself, and find the answer to it.

And then, if you want, you can become a shining mirror to others by sharing your question. You can be the one in front of the classroom or seminar trying to get people to participate and ask you questions. And you can lead them to find the answer for themselves and help transform their lives. You can become a powerful transformative figure that will etch your signature into the book of human history.

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Drama

It’s not automatically bad to a drama queen. Some of the people I most admire in life are drama queens.
It’s just a matter of what you’re being a drama queen about, having something larger than worrying about what someone said or did to you or people you care about. Larger than seeking attention to justify the reason for your existence.

It’s difficult to disengage yourself from that kind of drama. It’s not about becoming numb to it or not caring about it. That’s just self-deception. It’s about being so involved in something else that means so much more to you that you really can’t spend any of your time dwelling on the other stuff.
And it’s very important to not try and deceive yourself. Some people I’ve come across hold themselves back in living life because inside they’re too involved in pretending to not care when they really do. That’s probably the most dangerous form of drama actually, to be a drama queen to yourself inside your own head.

But once you get over that and you begin to have larger drama in your life, you start to become active in your family and begin mending wrongs like when brothers don’t speak to each other for decades, fathers who’ve disowned their children, mothers who go unappreciated, spouses who go uncared for. You begin to become active in your community and help those who are truly needy. And it just keeps growing, your drama.

You begin to realize just how powerful you are as a human being because of just how much of a drama queen you are. Every one of you.

Irrational Independent Selfishness

Certain people shouldn’t have kids.

That’s what I tell myself when I see the usual example of violence and bad behavior being passed down from red-faced berating parent to red-faced screaming child.

mom at the grocery store

And then I take that thought a little further and think about one day when I’ll rule the world and dictate that people will have to pass certain profiling tests to have children. I’ll make sure that future children will have parents that have qualities to pass down like patience, intelligence, responsibility, problem-solving, etc.

Ignorance, hatred, impatience, etc, would be diminished from the world in one single generation.

I would allow myself a few more moments of megalomania before I’d think of the consequences of a world like that. A world where young people feel powerless when they want children. Where they dread meeting the panel that will determine whether they can do a biological function that all other creatures freely do. A world where there’ll be corrupt bureaucrats doling out pass/fail baby cards based on connections, bribes, and personal whim.

naziIt’s such a bad idea on second thought, so why did I even have it in the first place? Probably because I hate seeing pain and suffering. Because I don’t want to deal with the suffering of another human being, which causes me to be uncomfortable, awkward, and insecure. There’s also the fear that one day I’ll have to deal with that person in some way. It’s the avoidance of annoyance, frustration, and fear that drove me to such thoughts.

And that’s alright isn’t it? I want to avoid bad things, it’s my personal right to avoid bad things. But to acquire what I believe is my right as an independent being, should I contradict that right and take that independence away from others? Even if it’s for the “greater good of society.”

As an independent person, I am allowed my independent selfishness that allows me to remain alive and attain happiness. But not everything selfish is allowable by me. There are irrational selfish ideals, such as my megalomania, that will end up harming everyone, including myself.

So the game isn’t about not being selfish at all, or about not ever practicing altruism. The game is about when it makes sense to be selfish and when it makes sense to just continue suffering humanities bad habits.

Power is in the motion

Physics simplifies things by giving us little functional definitions for complex terms, such as power:
“power is the rate at which work is performed or energy is converted”
The key word we’re going to focus on today is “rate.” A rate is how fast something changes, how fast something moves.
Simply put, power requires motion.
But it doesn’t seem like a lot of people translate what is very simply defined in physics to their day to day lives.
In a more social sense, power is usually mistaken for control. And control is usually mistaken for something static, keeping things the same, no changes. You can see this error at work in one of the most powerful mover and shaker of human society, religion.
Most of the population of humans on the world subscribe to some orthodox faith. And usually the orthodoxy are very prone to a “don’t ask questions, don’t try to change things, lets all try and keep things how they were back in the golden ages of our history.”
Another powerful force in human society is culture, specifically the concept of a tradition. Cultural traditions and religion share that same sort of “let’s all try and keep things as they are, the old times were the good times” mentality.
What’s interesting is that the current rigid orthodox religions are developed from pivotal moments in history where single people, prophets, brought giant changes and messages of change to specific regions of the world.
You can also observe the resistance against change on a more personal level. How much change do you resist on small and large scales throughout your day and life? How often do you think back to the “golden times” of your youth? How much of your life is spent in attaining control of your finances, weight, children, life situation? And what is that final outcome you’re seeking? What is peace and happiness to you? Is it a stable job, uncomplaining kids, a comfortably familiar spouse?
True power comes from motion, from change.
In physics, there is a direct correlation between the quantity of power and the rate of change, the speed. The faster the motion, the more power there is.
I believe that this is true in life as well. In business seminars they tell you that it’s the ones who are quick to act on opportunities who are the ones most likely to succeed.
In anthropology, they tell you that human beings are actually designed for quick change and fast motion, on a rational level. The evolution of our large brain, from the early hominids to the current homo sapiens, occurred largely due to the frequently dramatic shifting climate during the era of early man. This created the biological need for rapid changes in behavioral patterns and adaptability for survival.
But power corrupts, right?
Does it? Just like guns kill people, drugs destroy people’s lives, and money is the root of all evil, power corrupts.
One outcome of having a static, change resistive mentality is the habit of blaming any unwanted change on outside forces. It isn’t absolutely true that we have no one or no thing to blame except ourselves. Drugs are addictive, guns are dangerous, money does create opportunity for greed, and power does bring out the worst in people. But I believe that it’s our resistance to change that exacerbates negative consequences. The more we try to control, the more out of control things become.
Again we can look to physics to guide us. Power, physics says, is the natural outcome of the motion. Commutatively, to get any movement, you require power. Translated to social situations, any change in the individual or groups of individuals requires power. Examples of power may be brute strength, rationality, love, spirituality, fear, inspiration, and any other reason that moves a person to act. There’s nothing inherently sinister about power. It can be abused by man just like money or food.
The main point that I want to make is that:
No motion, no power. No power, no motion. And in life, we are either living or we’re dying. There is no such thing as status quo in this reality.

Kung Fu training method

(disclaimer: This is purely for Toison White Crane, Lama Pai, or Hop Ga type of styles)

Structure

  1. Three points of energy-source: left-right shoulders and dantien (stomach core)
  2. Horse stance: glutes, thighs, knees, feet. The foundation holding up the 3 energy-sources.

The three energy-sources are ran by turning them. Twisting of the waist and flailing of the shoulders. These are multi-angle capable parts of the body and turning and twisting of them with power and precision is the ultimate goal.

The base that anchors the turns are the lower half of the body. This must be strengthened and diligently trained to handle the stresses caused from the upper half safely.

Dynamics

Now move all that around the floor. Learn how to move your feet around while engaging your energy-sources while still having balance and power. Try not to hurt yourself to much.